When is enough enough?
Sometimes we have big feelings. It’s normal to experiences this as a human. Sometimes one of those big feelings is love. I’ve only been in love 3 times in my life. And with every time I was in love I loved with my whole heart each love was deeper and deeper. With each love I lost a part of myself that I’ll never get back. With each love I had I found myself at a certain point.
This point was different for each relationship but somewhere along the lines of losing myself, I had loved them so much that it actually hurt. When you reach this point in a relationship, you’re relationship is near it’s end. Or it should be.
Loving someone so much that it hurts is not something that is ok. Loving someone so much that you lose who you truly are in the midst of trying to appease them is wrong.
When you keep saying to yourself “I love them so much it hurts me” or anything similar you need to reevaluate your relationship.
Are you equals, are they putting in as much as you are? Are you happy? Are you getting what you want out of the relationship? Are your needs being met? These are just some things to think of.
Because you shouldn’t love anyone so much that it hurts you.
That is not true love.
Inspired by Owen Hunt on Grey’s Anatomy.
Indeed it does. Love is to make each other better, not to let anyone get hurt.
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Yes! I agree! Thanks for reading.
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Very interesting and insightful post. It made me think of something I’ve read years ago that the best kind of love is loving someone for you, not loving someone for them. Loving someone can give a person a lot of energy and inspire, but loving someone for them often results in losing oneself for the sake of others. Pity that we’re reminded more often that being selfish is bad instead of ‘beware not to fall too deep in love’ – that would save so many people (especially women) from having unhappy relationships.
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This is a very unique way to put it but I love it so much! And this is very true. So many more people would be in healthier relationships if we were taught that being selfish was a good thing some times.
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I surely think that a healthy dose of being selfish can help stay focused. In my opinion, everyone should first prioritize their health (both mental and physical) over everything else, everyone should care about themselves enough to avoid harming themselves. Sacrificing one’s well-being for a relationship is never a good thing in the long run, it’s devastating (and also devastating to see people do it).
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I couldn’t have said it any better than you
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